1. He Is Your Best Friend
He's the person you cannot wait to come home to at the end of each day. He's the best part of your day. No matter what's going on in your life, you know you can depend on him to bring a smile to your face. Whether you're going on an awesome adventure together, or having a quiet night in, you always have fun together. You have your own inside jokes, and you know how to make each other laugh hysterically. He's your biggest fan, your support system. You're confident that, together, you can get through anything life may throw at you.
2. You Can Tell Him Anything & Everything
There are no secrets between the two of you. You tell each other everything. He's the first person you want to share good news or bad news with. When you both come home from work, you'll talk about how your day went, or whatever's going on in the world. You have intellectual conversations, and you have conversations about the most random things. There is nothing you're afraid to share with him. You can talk about anything - even things that may be difficult or uncomfortable to discuss. But he will never judge you. Even if he doesn't fully understand, he will try his best to.
3. Fights Are Healthy & Often End With a Solution
Arguments and fights typically never escalate to insane blowouts. They're the fights that either need to happen to invoke a positive change, or they're just a buildup from the stresses of everyday life. Fights are totally natural in any partnership. Think about it - if you spend every single second of every single day with your best friend or sibling or a co-worker, they're bound to irritate you at some point. It happens. Too much of anyone can be daunting.
But fights with your life partner are different. You love him even when you want to hate him. And even after some of your biggest fights, you still kiss and make up, truly knowing it'll all be okay and this was just a bump in the road. You'll bicker and disagree, but the fights usually end with ideas or a plan on how this fight could be prevented in the future.
4. He Doesn't Just Talk About Effort, He Shows It
In some relationships, a lot of empty promises are made, or effort fades in time - all of those surprises and little things that showed a true effort slowly come to an end. And if the effort stops entirely, then that's when the love is at risk of becoming stale or dying out.
But your life partner does what he says he'll do, even if it's not right away. And whether that be in the littlest ways or the biggest - he'll continue to put in the effort as the years go by because he wants to keep reminding you just how much you mean to him. He wants to keep the love alive.
5. He's Comfortable, But Not Too Comfortable
He's comfortable enough to be his 100% true-self around you, but not so comfortable that he stops putting in the effort, or stops taking care of himself. You bring out the best in each other, and you motivate each other to stay healthy and stay on track. You and your life partner find that balance between being so comfortable with each other that you become best buds, all while still remembering to continue to put in effort and not forget about the little things that matter most.
6. Your Happiness Means Everything To Him
If you're sad, he's sad - even at times when he may not fully understand why, or what you're going through. But when life hits hard, he'll do anything in his power to make you happy. He'll always support you and be rooting for you. If you're feeling down, he'll want you to do whatever you need to do in order to get that happiness back - have a night out with the girls, buy yourself that new dress, plan an adventure together - whatever it may be. He is never envious or controlling, and he always has your best interest in mind. Your happiness is genuinely important to him because he's on your team, he has your back.
7. You Know In Your Heart You Can Trust Him
Trust can be a very tricky thing. But with him, you know in your heart he would never risk doing anything that may lead to him losing you. Nothing is that important. He will never stray and he will never jeopardize your love for anything. You can trust him to come back home to you at the end of any night out or weekend away. You can trust that he won't let you down. But we're all humans - imperfect creatures - and if he ever does slip up or make a stupid mistake, you can guarantee he will find a way to make it up to you and make it all better.
8. You Have No Eyes For Anyone Else
I've always believed that when a person's eyes start to stray, or he or she actually considers cheating - if the thought even so much as crosses their mind...that's when they should walk away or reevaluate the relationship. If they're willing to risk losing their significant other for something meaningless, they should either end things altogether, or figure out what led them down this road and fix it.
What you have with your life partner is rare, and you probably won't find it again. You'd never even think to do something stupid that might mess it up. You're both faithful and loyal to each other because you know what you have is real, and you never want it to end.
9. You Feel Complete, Like Nothing Is Missing
You have no weight on your shoulders anymore when it comes to love. You now feel a sense of completeness, like nothing is missing. Even if you're having a shittiest day, or your job is hell - just knowing you have him keeps you going. He brings a brightness to your life. He makes you feel as though the entire world could turn it's back on you, but he would be still standing by your side. It's you and him against the world.
10. You Cannot Imagine A Life Without Him
Even just the thought of something bad happening to him makes your heart sting, your stomach turn. You cannot imagine a life without him in it. He's your world.
11. The Love You Have is Simple, But Powerful
He comes with no ridiculousness, no bullshit, no games. It is simple. The love and care comes naturally, it is never a struggle. He is your best friend, your teammate, your rock. He is your everything - through the ups, downs, and everything in between. And you wouldn't want it any other way.